How Core Wounds Keep You Stuck
Part of the brilliance of RTT is that it helps you uncover the core wound that keeps you stuck.
A core wound can manifest as:
• Feeling unworthy or like you don’t belong
• Never feeling prioritized or safe
• Struggling to trust others or life itself
These beliefs shape your attachment style, relationships, and self-perception. If left unexamined, they can lead to a lifetime of feeling broken or disconnected.
My Core Wounds: Not Feeling Prioritized or Safe
RTT revealed to me that my two core wounds were never feeling prioritized or safe.
I know exactly where this started.
• My father lost his dad as a child and was raised by an authoritarian grandmother.
• My mother was never a priority in her family—shuffled between relatives, tasked with caring for dying family members, and left emotionally unsupported.
• When my parents became parents, they unknowingly passed down their wounds to me.
My father loved me, but he was emotionally absent. I thought he prioritized me, but in reality, I was prioritizing him.
My mother was rigid and controlling, punishing any attempt I made to express my own needs.
I spent my life chasing validation, hoping to be chosen, seen, and important to someone.
How Unresolved Wounds Show Up in Adulthood
When core wounds go unexamined, they dictate our behavior:
• We seek partners who mirror our childhood patterns—unavailable, controlling, or dismissive.
• We feel unworthy of love, success, or attention.
• We play small to stay safe or act out to get noticed.
For me, this meant I:
• Overcompensated to prove my worth.
• Played small so I wouldn’t be seen as “too much.”
• Kept people at arm’s length because vulnerability felt unsafe.
• Attracted relationships where I was not prioritized.
Rewriting the Narrative Through RTT
RTT helped me uncover a pivotal memory:
• I was two and a half years old while my family was screaming and fighting about me.
• My older siblings were resentful that I received more love than they did.
• I was terrified, crying, absorbing the belief that I was the cause of their pain.
• No one comforted me.
• My mother, exhausted, told me to “stop crying.”
That was the moment my inner child decided that I was on my own.
That I was not safe, not prioritized, and not allowed to have needs.
I had spent my entire life trying to prove I was worthy of love—when, in reality, I had always been worthy.
The Healing Process: Reparenting the Inner Child
Healing didn’t happen overnight.
Through RTT and mindset coaching, I learned to:
• Witness my old wounds instead of letting them control me.
• Grieve the younger versions of myself that were left unprotected.
• Prioritize myself without shame.
One of the most profound exercises was visualizing my adult self comforting my younger self.
I picked her up. I wiped away her tears. I told her she was safe now.
For the first time, I was able to trust myself to be my own protector.
The Transformation: Finding Safety in Myself
Before healing, my nervous system was always on high alert.
On a scale from 1 to 10, my hypervigilance was a 9.5.
Now, I live at a 2.
I feel at peace. I trust myself. I attract relationships where I am prioritized.
This is what happens when you heal at the root level.
Are You Ready to Heal Your Core Wound?
If you resonate with this, ask yourself:
• What are the patterns I keep repeating in my relationships?
• Where do I feel unworthy, unsafe, or unseen?
• How is my inner child still trying to protect me?
If you’re ready to finally address your core wound, reach out to learn how RTT and mindset coaching can help.
