Restore Your Faith: Trusting Yourself and the Process

There was a time when trusting felt impossible. Betrayal sat heavy in my chest. My mind replayed every letdown, every broken promise, every moment I had ignored my own instincts—and paid the price. I started to believe trust itself was dangerous, a trap designed to leave me exposed. And so, I learned to guard my heart, mistaking self-protection for wisdom.

But here’s what no one tells you about building walls: they don’t just keep the pain out. They keep everything out. Love. Connection. Growth. Possibility.

And that’s when the question arrived—the one that changed everything:

“What if trusting myself was never the problem? What if the real issue was that I had spent so long listening to the voices that weren’t mine?”

The Illusion of Control

We all want to believe we can predict and control outcomes. That if we’re careful enough, if we analyze every possibility, we can prevent heartbreak, failure, regret. But real trust isn’t about certainty—it’s about faith in our own resilience.

For years, my fear of being hurt again kept me in a loop of overanalyzing, second-guessing, and hesitating. I didn’t realize that my subconscious was running an outdated survival program—one that whispered, It’s safer to stay small. It’s safer to be prepared for disappointment.

But the truth is, trust is a muscle. And like any muscle, it atrophies when we don’t use it.

The Body Remembers

An incredible woman—told me her story. It left its mark. After battling an autoimmune disease for over a decade, she wanted relief, not just from the physical pain, but from the exhaustion of constantly feeling like her own body had turned against her.

She talked about seemingly insignificant childhood memories—falling off her bike and hiding her pain to be the “good girl,” witnessing unfairness in her family and realizing that telling the truth wouldn’t always be believed. They were small moments, but they carried a powerful message:

“You can’t trust yourself. You can’t trust others. You are not safe.”

And so, her body responded the only way it knew how. It held on. It braced itself. It armored up.

When she uncovered these root beliefs, something shifted. Her fingers—once swollen with chronic pain—began to move more freely. She was stunned. “Never in a million years would I have connected my illness to feeling betrayed in childhood,” she told me.

But this is how our minds work. The stories we absorb in our early years don’t just shape our emotions; they imprint themselves onto our nervous system, onto the very way we exist in the world.

Where Do You Place Your Trust?

When our trust has been shattered, we often believe the only way to stay safe is to never be vulnerable again. But that kind of safety comes at a cost. We lose access to our deepest wisdom. We begin to outsource our decisions, seeking validation from others instead of listening to ourselves.

Ask yourself:

• Do I trust myself to make good decisions, or do I constantly seek reassurance?

• Do I trust that life is unfolding in my favor, or do I assume things will go wrong?

• Do I trust my emotions, or do I dismiss and suppress them?

If your answers reveal hesitation, it’s okay. That awareness is the first step toward healing.

The Path Back to Trust

Restoring trust—whether in yourself, in others, or in life—doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a practice. A daily choice. A willingness to be seen, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Here’s where to start:

🔹 Keep the small promises you make to yourself. Trust is built in micro-moments. If you say you’ll wake up early for a walk, do it. If you promise yourself a moment of rest, honor it.

🔹 Reclaim your voice. If you’ve spent years silencing your instincts, start small. Speak your truth in safe spaces. Express your preferences without apology. Let your voice matter.

🔹 Shift your focus. Instead of fixating on what could go wrong, ask: What if things turn out better than I imagined? This isn’t about toxic positivity; it’s about retraining your brain to expect goodness.

🔹 Make space for quiet. Whether it’s meditation, journaling, or simply turning off distractions, create room to hear your own thoughts. Your inner wisdom is always speaking—you just need to listen.

🔹 Forgive yourself. For the times you ignored your gut. For the moments you let fear choose for you. Self-trust isn’t about never making mistakes; it’s about knowing you can always return to yourself.

Faith Over Fear

I no longer live in a world where trust feels like a trap. I don’t assume betrayal is lurking around every corner. That shift wasn’t about blind optimism—it was about choosing to see the world differently.

The more I trusted myself, the more I found people who were worthy of my trust. The more I expected good things, the more they arrived. Because trust isn’t just about what we believe; it’s about where we choose to place our attention.

And today, I choose to place my attention on this:

I am safe.

I am supported.

I am always being guided.

So are you.

What’s Next?

Trust is an invitation. A muscle. A practice.

If this resonated with you, take one small step today toward building self-trust. Maybe it’s speaking your truth. Maybe it’s listening to your gut. Maybe it’s simply reminding yourself that you are not your past.

Wherever you are on your journey, know this: Trusting yourself is the most radical act of faith you will ever take. And you are worthy of it.